Many people have been so curious about how things are going in our household with our new sons. To look in their eyes, I can tell they are not sure what answer I am going to pop up with. Well here is my answer:
It is going so well, it scares me.
After months and months of reading books on adoption and all the pitfalls of taking in older children, I was ready for the worst. I still am. I am on my guard.....but I feel I am losing my grasp on this caution as I fall hopelessly in love with these boys.
I wince as I remember not in the too distant past (only a little over two weeks ago), how the youngest, Anteneh, hid behind his brother at the airport. I remember his fear and my immediate primal desire to want to comfort him and tell him I was all his. This little boy was the last to warm up to me. In fact, his smiles had to be earned....and now I can't stop him.
I will never forget having to hold him in my lap to restrain him for blood work. It was almost more than I could handle. Anteneh wept bitterly, this poor child who had traveled half way around the world to be in a family and a land that confused him. Holding him, I wept. No words could capture the ache I felt for this boy, the desperation of wanting him to feel safe in my arms, the sorrow I felt for his past. It all came crashing down on me in that lab chair. Not once have I ever wept when any of my other children received shots or had blood drawn. But this particular instance did me in. I was undone.
He is now a Tasmanian devil that crawls under our bed and grabs our feet to our horror and surprise. This is the little guy that when given a cup to fill at the gas station, he fills it with every flavor of soda and every flavor of icee. Yes, all in one cup. This is a child that swallows life whole....without chewing. He loves touch. He loves to say the word "Mom." He follows me smiling at times for unknown reasons and leaves after I kiss and hug him. His hugs get tighter and tighter every night.
I am in love.
Ephrem is the eldest and is just gorgeous. He is intelligent and much more serious that his youngest brother. He is close to 11 years old and. like Anteneh, has blended so well with our boys that are around his age. He is picking up English at an alarming rate and I am in awe of him. Although he is quite a bit more laid back than his younger brother, he is not afraid to try anything new. He seems fearless like his brother. Ephrem is also so good to let us know the Amharic equivalent is to many words. He is such a gentle child that has taken awhile to loosen up, but tonight, he let out a rip roaring laugh that filled our whole family with absolute delight.
Have I said that I am in love with these boys yet?
We have started them on chores by having them shadow several different children so they can learn the different jobs in our home. They seem to relish the chance to help as I believe it makes them feel part of the family.
Here are some pictures of our newest additions, Ephrem and Anteneh:
Their 1,000 watt smiles
Ephrem walked around the house with this box on his head as if were the most normal thing in the world. His dry humor has won me over.
How can you NOT fall for a face like this??????
Anteneh.......trying to hide and failing miserably.
The computer is Ephrem's lost love. He LOVES the game canvas rider and is not too crazy about the 30 minute limit we have on computer time.!
My handsome Ephrem.
Ephrem giving Timothy some brotherly love.
Doing chores as a team.
Ephrem showing his prowess at trash emptying.
Anteneh helping Luke with the dishes.