Monday, May 16, 2011

Coming Clean....

It is time to let you all know what has been happening.

I was contacted several days ago about a set of brothers aged 3yrs and 8mos. Their mother had gotten into some legal trouble regarding domestic violence and she and the father of the boys were ordered to stay away from them for a period of one year. As a result, the little boys were unceremoniously dumped off at their grandparent's home. This is where the call for help came to me. The grandparents already have custody of two other older children from their wayward daughter....hence they could not take on the further challenge of two more tiny little grandchildren. Through a friend, they asked if a family could be found to take the children.

My husband and I were eager to lend our family and our home to help these brothers. It was a no-brainer and we would avail ourselves for however long was needed.

I was given the grandmother's number to contact and on the other end of the line was a defeated and exhausted woman who had given up hope. In turn, she had called the Department of Social Services to come get the boys to have them put into the foster system. As of my call to her, DSS had yet to get custody of the boys.....there was still hope. She obviously had no idea that she would be signing them away potentially forever if she did this. Before I had made this call to her, I had contacted my social worker to get some counsel on what could be done. All that needed to be done to keep these boys out of the "system" was to have the mom and the dad sign custody over to the grandparents and then they could sign over the custody of the boys to a "private family" (hopefully us) that could help them keep the boys out of foster care. It would take a little footwork to get this done, but it would have life long positive ramifications for these little boys.

Here's where my husband and I have become utterly exasperated.

The grandmother appeared to not want to do this even though she expressed a strong interest to maintain contact with the boys. She said she was too tired and needed to think about it. What's to think about?????? Unfortunately, I was in California visiting my Mom when this all came down. I begged her to hang on for two more days and then I could come in and help her with the boys.

She said she couldn't.

She wouldn't.

Can I tell you how helpless I felt? Later on the same day, I called but there was no answer. I left a message offering to talk with her daughter and the father and offer legal help. I also offered childcare to come in at our expense to take the pressure of her until I came back.....I stated the ball was in her court and that she knew my number and that we were here to help. All this may sound like bribery to get the boys, but what it really is, is the attempt to keep these boys out of the foster system. Schindler's list. He paid. I will pay too.

There was never a call back.

I want to call back, but I am afraid that my further "intrusion" will just drive her further away from considering our family as an option to help her with the boys. And most likely it is too late. Her silence and lack of response can only tell me that she gave up. It is very possible she chose the easy way out and had the state take over......even after I informed her of the possible long term damage this could cause everyone in the family. These children will be irretrievable.

I just ache. Children aren't pets that you give away because you are too tired in the moment to deal with them. They need to be fought for. I have unwillingly laid down my boxing gloves in this one and fallen at the feet of my precious Lord asking for protection for these children....and this family. Will you pray for them too?

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Something Big is In The Works......I Think.....

Ok peoples.

I can't go into too much detail. But something big is coming down. Here is what I can say:

1) It has to do with children.....more children.

2) If it comes through, it will be life changing.

3) I am not pregnant.

My husband and I need your prayers and so do the children in question for they would be coming from a very painful circumstance. I so wish I could tell you more but then I would be jumping the gun. I will be getting a phone call tomorrow morning that will put flesh on what is going on. I promise I will go into more detail soon.

I just humbly ask for your prayers for peace and the glory of God's will to drive this situation where it needs to go.

Talk to you soon.